John Gottman's most recent research has been in the area of building trust after a relationship partner has been unfaithful. In his research he has found that there are 5 things that the unfaithful partner does that significantly heals the relationship. These are the steps.
The partner who has cheated:
1. Must have believeable & genuine remorse
2. Must have acquired new behaviors based on "why they cheated."
3. Must compensate their partner--what's important to their partner becomes important to them
4. Must build a new relationship with their partner that includes honesty, transparency, and cherishing.
5. Must be able to attune to their partner's negative emotions--awareness turning towards, tolerance, understand, non-defensive responses, empathy
If you and our partner are struggling with the difficult task of mending your relationship after one of you has been unfaithful, I can help you work through these steps.
You can reach me at 512-919-2069. Located at 5808 Balcones Dr., Suite 101, Austin, Tx 78731
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