Basically they’re all the same. You thought you had an
understanding with your partner or spouse that included not having a romantic
or sexual relationship with anyone outside the relationship or marriage.
Now—
You either suspect or know for a fact he/she is
cheating on you or has cheated on you.
Or
You either are cheating or were cheating on
him/her
Nothing stirs feelings up more than dealing this issue.
People frequently report their feelings being completely out of control and
often report feeling crazy at times. This is true for both the cheater and the
one cheated on.
Webster’s dictionary defines a “crisis” as being, “the
turning point for better or worse; a sudden attack of pain, distress or
disordered function; an emotionally significant event or radical change of
status in a person’s life; the decisive moment, an unstable or crucial time or
state of affair in which a decisive change is impending; a situation that has
reached a critical phase.”
Cheating or being
cheated on creates a major crisis in your life. And when it does, one word
takes center stage, the word that says it all.
BETRAYAL
Few feelings can compare. Even death is often easier to deal
with.
Betraying someone who trusted you, even in the most callous
of people, often produces more guilt than almost any misdeed. Being betrayed,
wounds at the deepest of level.
It seems as if the relationship can never be healed. How
could you ever feel trusted again or how could you ever trust again?
You Austin counselor, Carolyn C. Martin MS, LPC we will help you sort
through the myriad of feelings that comes from betrayal and then help you chart a
path to recovery, whether you chose to end the relationship or whether you
decide to continue the relationship. If you decide to stay in the relationship,
we will help you make the relationship the best it can be using the research
and methods of John Gottman, Ph.D. During this process you will not only learn
how to have a happy, stable relationship, but also how to affair-proof your
relationship to avoid ever being in this “crisis” again.
If you would like a sneak peak at what you will be learning
at Mariposa Psychotherapy Associates, see John Gottman’s research and
intervention information at www.gottman.com.
Dr. Gottman has been researching marriage for over 30 years. The information
you will learn isn’t pop psychology, TV/radio psychology or planetary
psychology (women aren’t from Venus and men aren’t from Mars.) What you will
learn comes from THE most reliable research ever done in the area of marriage.
You can reach Carolyn at 512-919-2069, located at 5808 Balcones Dr., Suite 101, Austin, Tx 78731
Also please visit Carolyn's website and visit her at Psychology Today
